I really grokked to this and it felt right. It felt good to finally have a word that made me feel like me. And most of the time, I generally do feel like a girl. But every so often, I experience this swing into something else and I don't have a word for it but having a word that encompasses my fluctuating state is amazing and so, so, so validating.
Now, despite identifying as a non-binary gender, I don't currently identify as transgender. By definition, if you do not identify with the gender you were assigned at birth, you are trans.
That said, for me personally (and your mileage may vary) I feel uncomfortable calling myself trans. For a number of reasons, but most notably because nothing about how I live my life has changed with discovering a term for my gender.
My pronouns are still primarily she/her (though I am absolutely fine with they/them) and my gender presentation is still very much femme-leaning. I am an AFAB person who still identifies as femme-aligned 83% of the time.
And as much as I love the term "conditional privilege," I don't feel as though it applies to me on this. Because I present exactly the same as I did when identifying as cisgender and no one would know that I'm nonbinary without my explicit explanation, I do not experience transphobia. So I have a hard time with attaching that label to myself -- it feels very much like appropriating a level of oppression that I do not experience.
Now -- keep in mind that nonbinary is a gender experience under the transgender umbrella, and most NB folks I know also identify as trans, and that is 100% valid. This is simply my own experience and not indicative of anyone else's experience or opinions.
It's an issue that I admittedly go back and forth on for myself, believe me.
What about you guys? Do you also identify as nonbinary but not trans? If so, feel free to share in the comments or @ me on twitter! I'd love to know the thoughts of other nonbinary folks on this issue.
Til next time!